On 2 August 2017 I wrote this opinion piece for Stuff in response to Jacinda Ardern’s election as Labour Party leader and the questions she subsequently faced about whether she planned to have children.
When I was a Green MP and pregnant with my first child, former National MP Katherine Rich stood in my office and told me that she would do anything she could to help make the experience I was about to have easier.
She would even, she said, come and hold the baby for me while I worked.
I was taken aback by this generous offer, because I didn’t know her very well.
It seemed like the kind of thing you might offer to your family or close friends, not an acquaintance from a very different political background.
I see now that it was her way of telling me just how hard having a baby while an MP, was going to be. It was very, very hard.